Moving Methodism: Who are we for?

Rhea commented on one of my posts (42: 17 ideas to prepare for marriage or civil partnership) so I looked her up.

Hence: Moving Methodism: Who are we for?

For me some great measures of when Methodism has moved forward will be when:

  • Everyone who feels about themselves and life as Rhea does knows that they are welcome at every Methodist Church, event or manse. That when they meet Methodists they will feel accepted, loved and valued as they are.
  • When every self-help group, every professional, every charity, every volunteer, every friend, every neighbour, every family member who is in touch with a person struggling as Rhea is, knows they can put them in touch with Methodism (at any level and in any place) and they will be loved, welcomed, accepted, valued, cared for and supported.
  • When every Methodist person and group can respond to people as do our projects such as the Whitechapel Mission (slogan: "Bringing hope where there is only despair").

A challenge to think about in our Churches. How will you welcome Rhea when she comes in or calls you?

Rhea wrote:

1) I bought box cutters tonight (er, technically last night) which I used for the first time in over 5 years…

2) I'm afraid that I'm not strong enough to be a gay Christian (meaning, I'm not strong enough to be both)…which would then lead me to have to give up Christianity (since being gay isn't a choice).

3) About 3 and a half years ago I had a REAL
chance at getting some seriously good help for a lot of the 'issues'
that I have. Unfortunately, I listened to my pastor over my doctor
(that's the UBER condensed version)…and now here I am afraid
that that was my last chance at getting 'real' help, and that I'm too
far gone now.

1 and 3 are obviously related. I mean, if I'm a
'lost cause' then buying box cutters and slicing up my arms isn't that
big a deal…really, it's simply something that is inevitable.
Regarding number 2, people talk all the time about how strong I am, and
I fuckin'.hate.it. I sure as hell don't feel strong. I don't like
people talking about how I AM strong (usually this discussion
of me being strong has something to do with the deaths of my parents).
I feel like I can see the importance of sticking with my convictions,
not just for myself, but for those that will come after me. The thing
is, I just don't think that I can do it. I feel too weak. Perhaps I'm
just selfish…I dunno. I don't want to help blaze a trail for those
who will come after me…that sure sounds like selfishness to me. But
again…if I'm a lost cause, then what does it matter?

My life
is a waste. If I were to die now, then the inheritance that I'm
supposed to get in two years will instead go to charity. At the moment,
that seems like a far better place for that money that with me. I'm a
waste. I don't see any redeeming qualities in myself. I don't know that
I even want to see any…if they do exist.

I
just can't do this on my own…that's why I went back to number
1….well, that, and if I kept eating Dairy Queen instead I'd be 300
pounds before the end of the semester.

But don't spend too long on the thinking, instead get busy on the welcoming, loving, accepting, supporting and caring. That way we see once again Moving Methodism.

2 thoughts on “Moving Methodism: Who are we for?

  1. PamBG

    I wouldn’t want to promise to any vulnerable gay person that they could be certain of receiving a warm welcome in any Methodist church.
    I know that this is not so. And, as a ‘pro gay’ person (someone who believes that our sexuality is not chosen but that faithful monogamy is chosen) I also am ‘not allowed’ by the Church to be 100% welcoming to gay people. :-(

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  2. Dave Warnock

    Pam,
    “I wouldn’t want to promise to any vulnerable gay person that they could be certain of receiving a warm welcome in any Methodist church.”
    Agreed which is why I said it would be a sign of Moving Methodism when this is the case (and I am convinced it does need to be the case).
    “someone who believes that our sexuality is not chosen but that faithful monogamy is chosen”
    Agreed, I want to see emphasis on faithful monogamy for all (relying, as with all sin, on God’s grace, mercy & forgiveness after repentance).
    ” I also am ‘not allowed’ by the Church to be 100% welcoming to gay people. :-(“
    Also agreed in terms of blessing of Civil Partnerships for example. Again I look forward to this changing.
    Even without that the policy of the Methodist Church is to affirm the role of Lesbian and Gay people within the Church – that must surely require us to be welcoming etc already. So we already have a standard to which Churches can be called to move.
    I also recognise we have an even longer way to go before we could be considered a safe place for Bisexual and Transgendered people.

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