After a comment I left on The Road to “Elder” ado: It is all about relationship! POSITIVES I got a response:
So I have been pondering my reaction and the response.
The original post was a celebration that in new Frontiers everything happens and is decided based on relationships rather than anything else. My comment was that this is misleading. Even if true it is in fact only true for 50% of the population. No matter how good a woman is at relationships, no matter how much she has networked with all the right people she is not going to be selected to be an elder. For a woman in New Frontiers it is not all about relationships, instead it is first about gender. Get the gender wrong and the relationships are irrelevant.
Hence, the response to my comment. Perhaps I am seen by some people in New Frontiers as having only one agenda. I don’t think that is actually correct. I just don’t think I respect the conventions and boundaries that male headship supporters like. I hope it is inconvenient to have irresponsible, awkward, rude people like me bringing up this gender issue all the time, especially on posts that are about how men decide who is going to do what in the Church
It is easy for us to be blind about our own prejudices and assumptions. I am confident that it never occurred to David that New Frontiers is not “all about relationships” for women who are disenfranchised within their structures. I am equally confident that there are assumptions and prejudices that I have that I am also blind to. However, I do believe that we all need to become rather more reflective and self-aware as part of our discipleship. As we do so hopefully we are able to face up to and challenge some of our assumptions and prejudices.
Anyway, at the end of the day when it comes to the issue of male headship I hope that I do sound like a broken record, a one issue person. I would love to think that people start to think before they post “if I write this then that boring/fussy/interfering busy body/… Dave is going to be obnoxious in the comments and point out that it is not fair to women”. To that end please keep expecting to read or at least moderate my comments every time I notice you marginalising women. I aspire to being the dripping tap of equality