I showed Role Calling: Pastor’s Wife: Who Should I Invest In? to Jane (my wife), her first comments were that “I’m no lady” and “There are no ladies in our Church”. It was a matter of debate a few years ago, but apparently there is now unanimity that we don’t have any ladies
Mind you in our house use of language can be the cause of much dissent. For example between scone as in “gone” and scone as in “own” or “lone”
As for me the patriarchal view is just so yucky that it sticks in my throat. Remember that rather than call them selves supporters of “Male Headship” these views are marketed as “Complementarian” where men and women are equal but have different roles. With that “definition” in mind re-read the post and then tell me if you can see anything that gives you the idea that these “ladies” who are “expected to serve in their role as a pastor’s wife” are equal to the pastor?
So just as a reminder here are some of the ways I picked up that show a woman is not equal:
- They can’t be a pastor
- They can’t “serve” men
- They serve by choosing to “pour into” people (what a truly horrible phrase)
- They can’t have a job
- Their first priority is care for the home
- They have their life mapped out into seasons controlling who they should be serving.
- They have a duty to set an example of not being equal to their husband for other ladies to see.
Cynically it makes me wonder how much connection there is between the need strict programs for the male pastors to avoid moral failure (they mean sex. See 42: protecting against moral failure) and these views of what a wife should be like.
I wonder. If your wife is not your equal then is your eye more likely to wander?