What I Learned from Tommy: Ethics Daily.com! is well worth reading. It includes:
With tears in his eyes he said yes. I asked him if he wanted to be a heterosexual. "Dear God Almighty, yes," he burst out before emotionally breaking down. Tommy, I felt, was well on the road to healing and salvation.
I agreed to be his spiritual partner in the struggle. We covenanted to pray together. We fasted. We cast out the demon of homosexuality.
If anyone ever truly wanted to be a heterosexual, if anyone ever truly wanted to stop finding men attractive, if anyone ever truly humbled himself before God to faithfully live a Christian life, it was Tommy.
Years went by, and you know what? Tommy was still gay. Tommy did not change, but I did.
In a very real sense, Tommy taught me something important about God: either God lacked the power to save a willing believer from his sin, or maybe–just maybe–I have been taught to read the Bible through the eyes of homophobics, regardless of how loving they appeared.
Oh and beyond the obvious content I love the reminder that when we pray the answer may well be that we are changed rather than other people or situations.