It’s time we reject definitions of masculine that involve senseless violence. Defending my home, yes. Defending my country, yes. Running around attacking people because I don’t like their personality or the way they portray themselves, absolutely not. I can’t even see how it can be a question.
Actually I go further. "Defending my country, yes" is very hard (impossible?) to justify from the New Testament. The rest of the post is also good reading.